Zoom – The Fatigue is Real

What was previously just another onomatopoeic “ding dong” is now going to be one of the most used words of 2020. The word zoom, will forever take on a meaning of endless work meetings and the location for all social interaction for the large part of the last three months. We’ve celebrated birthday’s on zoom, praised achievements, had hard discussions and now honestly, I’m zoomed out.

Ironically, the word “zoom” usually indicates that you are moving quickly, flying through life, but my god are we trudging right now. Since moving to London time has flown, I’ve posted once since September! Days and nights instead filled with commuting, drinks in the pub, exploring new areas and for the large part, flopping exhaustedly on my bed after a day in the office. But now, we shut our laptops after a day of working from home, only to open them an hour later to join our friends and family for another edition of the weekly lockdown quiz.

But there is no shame in wanting to turn off the laptop, put it in a cupboard and never turn it back on. That would be admittedly a little dramatic, but honestly, I feel you. We are not programmed to live our lives through a screen, social interaction is a fundamental part of our nature and sometimes we all just need a physical hug.

I’ve found that since I’m spending the entirety of my social time on a laptop, whether that be for work or for catching up with friends, I’m sure as hell not wanting to spend my “me time” on it too. Whereas I once could have spent hours reading blogs, watching youtube videos and *ahem* playing the sims, now I find myself craving activities that don’t require staring at a screen. I’ve found I actually love colouring – turn’s out my creativity was playing with the colours in a picture someone else has drawn for me rather than drawing them myself, something my art teacher was more than definitely aware of at school…

I also have finished my first leisure book in a long time. Sophie Kinsella speaks to me on another level and I resonated hard with Samantha from The Undomestic Goddess. I’ve been delving into Caroline Hiron’s Skincare and have been learning to tell my AHA’s from my BHA’s in an attempt to justify a whole new skincare routine that’s Caroline approved.

So if you’re feeling a little ‘zoomed out’ then do yourself a good deed and step away from the screen. Social media is included in this – if you are digitally fatigued then the last thing you need is to see how others are living it up in lockdown!

Pick up a book. Go for a socially distanced walk. Paint your nails. Draw a picture. Fake tan. Try on every item of clothing in your wardrobe. Take a bath. Ultimately, make some time for yourself offline.

Yes, this is temporary, but whilst this is the way things are, make sure you adjust the other aspects of your life to account for this change. Will I ever pick colouring in a picture over meeting my friends for cocktails and brunch in the future? No, probably not. But for now it’s ok to say no to a zoom call and do an offline activity that’s just for you.

Brb, off to sharpen my pencils.

Learning to be Patient

Patience is a virtue, sadly it is a virtue I do not possess. Sitting around waiting for something to happen is not how I roll. As Queen B once said,

Destiny is for losers. It’s just a stupid excuse to wait for things to happen instead of making them happen.

If I want something, I go get it or set the wheels in motion to get it. I think its this dogged determination that’s got me to where I am today, about to start a job in my dream city of London and about to move into my own flat with my boyfriend. I am just far too excited for everything to simply sit around and wait for it to happen – I want to do it now! I want to be heading off to work with Ed in the mornings and catching the tube at the weekends to meet my friends for lunch and generally being settled in to life in the city.

However the past few weeks have taught me an important lesson, that sometime’s life doesn’t work that way and you really do just have to be patient. By the time I start work I’ll have had 3 weeks of ‘me time’ that I could have spent doing anything I wanted. Yet, I have still spent some of that time thinking about how I wanted it to go quickly instead of just enjoying the moment. It’s now less than a week till I start work, a terrifying thought in itself, yet this week I am determined not to let it just pass me by. We should all be making the most of the moment (cliché but true) rather than just waiting for the next thing to happen. In order for me to be patient I really do have to slow down. I don’t need to be living life at 100 miles an hour, considering sooner or later it’s going to speed up whether I like it or not!

I am so lucky that this free time has really allowed me to get in to a blogging grove, I absolutely crushed my personal blogging targets for August and I have so many exciting posts planned out for September already! So when I find myself sitting around with nothing immediately obvious to do, I jump on my laptop and play around on Canva, read up on SEO or scroll through twitter to find new blogs to read. This week I want to make sure my blog is in the best possible place before I start working full time, as I know just how hard it is to maintain a regular schedule amongst the stress of full time work, especially as we will still have our 3 hour round trip commute for the whole month before we move. That’s three hours that I would usually spend a day blogging, so I will need to find the extra time from somewhere, yet if I can pre-plan or schedule a few posts then hopefully it will be a smooth transition.

It has also meant that I have been able to help Ed out to make his first few weeks at work as easy a transition as possible. I make sure that all his work shirts are washed and ironed when he’s at work, so it’s all ready for him to wear when he needs it. A small gesture but it means that he doesn’t need to spend his time doing it when he gets home late at night, allowing us more chill time together. Another great thing to do if you’re trying to be patient and wait for things to happen is to try and learn/improve a skill that will be useful for whatever it is you are going in to. Whilst I’ve already talked about the skills that blogging gives you that are relevant to the workplace, I also want to improve my excel knowledge and refresh some of my powerpoint skills to make sure I’m raring to go when I begin my new role. Having a few weeks before I start to do this is such a great opportunity to give myself the best start possible so I should be making the most of this!

So if you, like me, struggle with being patient then I guess from a fellow struggler, learning to use your time productively is a great way to make yourself feel like you are still achieving things and moving forward. Whether that’s helping out family, spending more time with friends, planning in advance or teaching yourself a skill, trying to think of it as a positive period of time that is yours to grab and make your own will really help.

Are you good at being patient? Let me know in the comments how you do it!

PS. Have also attempted to combat the boredom of being so impatient by binge watching Australian reality TV shows on netflix. Instant Hotel and Back With the Ex are golden. Yummy Mummies is next on my list!

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