Learning to be Patient

Patience is a virtue, sadly it is a virtue I do not possess. Sitting around waiting for something to happen is not how I roll. As Queen B once said,

Destiny is for losers. It’s just a stupid excuse to wait for things to happen instead of making them happen.

If I want something, I go get it or set the wheels in motion to get it. I think its this dogged determination that’s got me to where I am today, about to start a job in my dream city of London and about to move into my own flat with my boyfriend. I am just far too excited for everything to simply sit around and wait for it to happen – I want to do it now! I want to be heading off to work with Ed in the mornings and catching the tube at the weekends to meet my friends for lunch and generally being settled in to life in the city.

However the past few weeks have taught me an important lesson, that sometime’s life doesn’t work that way and you really do just have to be patient. By the time I start work I’ll have had 3 weeks of ‘me time’ that I could have spent doing anything I wanted. Yet, I have still spent some of that time thinking about how I wanted it to go quickly instead of just enjoying the moment. It’s now less than a week till I start work, a terrifying thought in itself, yet this week I am determined not to let it just pass me by. We should all be making the most of the moment (cliché but true) rather than just waiting for the next thing to happen. In order for me to be patient I really do have to slow down. I don’t need to be living life at 100 miles an hour, considering sooner or later it’s going to speed up whether I like it or not!

I am so lucky that this free time has really allowed me to get in to a blogging grove, I absolutely crushed my personal blogging targets for August and I have so many exciting posts planned out for September already! So when I find myself sitting around with nothing immediately obvious to do, I jump on my laptop and play around on Canva, read up on SEO or scroll through twitter to find new blogs to read. This week I want to make sure my blog is in the best possible place before I start working full time, as I know just how hard it is to maintain a regular schedule amongst the stress of full time work, especially as we will still have our 3 hour round trip commute for the whole month before we move. That’s three hours that I would usually spend a day blogging, so I will need to find the extra time from somewhere, yet if I can pre-plan or schedule a few posts then hopefully it will be a smooth transition.

It has also meant that I have been able to help Ed out to make his first few weeks at work as easy a transition as possible. I make sure that all his work shirts are washed and ironed when he’s at work, so it’s all ready for him to wear when he needs it. A small gesture but it means that he doesn’t need to spend his time doing it when he gets home late at night, allowing us more chill time together. Another great thing to do if you’re trying to be patient and wait for things to happen is to try and learn/improve a skill that will be useful for whatever it is you are going in to. Whilst I’ve already talked about the skills that blogging gives you that are relevant to the workplace, I also want to improve my excel knowledge and refresh some of my powerpoint skills to make sure I’m raring to go when I begin my new role. Having a few weeks before I start to do this is such a great opportunity to give myself the best start possible so I should be making the most of this!

So if you, like me, struggle with being patient then I guess from a fellow struggler, learning to use your time productively is a great way to make yourself feel like you are still achieving things and moving forward. Whether that’s helping out family, spending more time with friends, planning in advance or teaching yourself a skill, trying to think of it as a positive period of time that is yours to grab and make your own will really help.

Are you good at being patient? Let me know in the comments how you do it!

PS. Have also attempted to combat the boredom of being so impatient by binge watching Australian reality TV shows on netflix. Instant Hotel and Back With the Ex are golden. Yummy Mummies is next on my list!

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Dear Diary… Life’s a Happening

What a crazy few weeks we have all had! From new prime ministers to the most unbearable heatwave of 37.5 degrees, life really has been happening. However the real breaking news is that I am so excited that I now have the full domain of londonsnewgirl.blog which I cannot wait to work on and develop as I explore London life!

Whilst lots has certainly been happening on a national scale, things over here have been a little, well… odd. This really has been the first time in about five years that I haven’t had a Summer job or uni work to be doing. What on earth am I meant to be doing with all this free time? I’m catching myself feeling guilty if I sit and play on my phone for too long but at the same time I am struggling to fill each day. I hate sitting around and I am definitely not one for lounging around at the weekends, I’d much rather be out and about exploring or catching up with friends. That being said I’ve spent an inordinate amount of time on Pinterest recently, follow me here if you’re a fellow ‘pinner.’ I’ve trawled every interior store and homeware section and pinned all my favourites, which is causing some contention between myself and the boyfriend who is refusing a pink, white and grey colour scheme in the bedroom. He needn’t bother as I’m very much aware that it’ll be a combination of both of our university things for the first few months/years anyway, however that does give me plenty of time to win him over…

My main task is finding a job, closely followed by finding a flat and both are majorly overwhelming. I have been lucky enough to have an interview that I’m keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for as it would be the dream, however realistically I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much. I want to do a whole post or even a series on finding a job in London as I definitely think it’s different to any other place, the competition is unbelievably strong yet there are so many opportunities so how do you pick the right one? Who knows. Not me right now anyway!

Flat hunting is looking slightly more positive, which is rather frustrating considering I can’t pay rent without a job, however it’s the three busses coming at once scenario isn’t it. However I guess in this case its the connecting bus arriving before I even get the first one! We are actually going to view a flat tomorrow and I’m trying to compile my list of adult questions to ask the agents however it’s hard to get out the mindset of asking if I can put blue tac on the walls after so many years of boarding school and uni accommodation.

So that’s it. Life really is starting yet is seeming to take a very long time to get going. I am such an impatient person, which is something I am struggling a little with right now, so I’m going to pool all of my organisational and creative energy into the blog and see what I can come up with! What are your tips for being patient when it comes to waiting for life? I definitely don’t want to wish this down time away when the next 50 or so years are going to be pretty intense, but I guess I am just too excited to get started? Let me know in the comments!